Questions to Ask Your Students When They Return from Their Gap Years

As a former gap program leader, I remember the conversations I had with parents over our graduation weekend. They had so many questions about how to interact with their son or daughter after such a transformational experience. During a debrief session with just parents, one mom turned to me and said: “I spent 18 years with [my daughter] and thought I knew her well. But I can already tell she is a different, more mature person. You now know her better than I do and that makes me both happy and a little sad. What can you tell me about her and the things that influenced her growth?” In just a few hours, she had noticed a difference in her daughter and understood that I had been witness to much of that change.